Sometimes, in the midst of recovering from divorce and child related issues, reaching out to help someone else makes a difference and helps redefine family priorities. Children often get so caught up in their own issues with their parents and all the family changes, they forget how much they do have and just how fortunate they are - even in the midst of challenges.

Maybe you can help them by asking your kids what issues are important to them. This does not have to be a super big project, because if everyone did something on a regular basis, it would make a difference.

You can plant a butterfly garden to help the monarch butterfly which is endangered. You can clean up a park or beach and leave it better than you found it. You can volunteer at a local shelter. Ask your kids what they would like to do. Then find a way to do it as a family. Keep a journal where everyone can write down what you do each week and how you feel about it.

At the end of the summer, you might find that your family has rededicated itself to helping others and will have grown together as a result.

Dr. Amy L. Stark is a clinical psychologist (License #PSY7828) based in Southern California. She is best known for her work with children in high-conflict divorce situations. Dr. Stark is the author of 5 books, including self-esteem books for girls and a series of illustrated children's stories. For more information www.dramystark.com

Dr. Stark's article is not intended to take the place of court-ordered advice or the advice of another professional. Although you may use the input found here to your best advantage, we recommend that you do so in conjunction with the work that you are doing with your individual therapist. Remember: this article is not therapy; it's knowledge and support.