Parents in the midst of divorce conflict are missing the boat…and so are their kids. When the focus is on who gets the most time, who gets to pick the kid’s activities, who should make the medical decisions, there is often not enough time to help your child find their dream. When was the last time that either parent thought about their child having a reason to be on the planet. What are your child’s talents. How can you help your child develop those skillls and interests and fulfull a purpose for being here? One of the first ways is to begin to actually see your child. Talk to them as they continue to grow and develop about what their interests are. Expose them to career opportunities to help them feel inspired. Remember that they are a gift to you and hopefully a gift to the planet. Help them begin to think about a future and how they can help make the world a better place. When parents move past fighting their child can begin to think about a future rather than why mom and dad are at it again. Give your child the gift of being able to dream about and create their future by keeping your fighting to a minimum. Shift your focus to encouraging, inspiring and directing. Spend time every day helping your child see the positives each member of their familiy has and how those positives can make a difference. Show how you are also doing the same thing for yourself. Leading by example is the best teacher of all