Dr. Amy Stark
Child Psychologist, Author & Speaker
Teaching Families How to Live Divorced
and Self-Esteem for Girls and Boys
Food For Thought
The hardest thing about yearly goals is that they are too broad. It’s lovely to have a far-reaching goal, but unless we divide it up into little do-able bites, a lofty goal remains unachievable. So this year, why not:
- Set a goal for each area of your life that can be achieved in one, two, or five years. This becomes your long range plan
- Divide up each goal with a monthly action plan. What step can you take this month and actually achieve?
- Once a month sit down with your goal list and see how much progress you have made
- Make sure to consult with an expert, if you need help to make do-able goals
You can help your kids also set goals. The goals should be for things like improving math, learning sight words, learning a skill such as riding a bicycle or jumping rope. Then:
- Talk to them about practice and what they can do each week.
- At the end of each week talk to them about what they did that week and involve them in the action plan.
- At the end of the month sit down and celebrate wins or set up a more achievable plan.
Doing this sets in motion a goal setting plan they can use throughout their lives. Remember, they will also have long term goals like college or a career they love. Teach them how to live in the moment but set a course for the future.
Dr. Stark's Web site is not intended to take the place of a court-ordered advice or the advice of another professional. Although you may use the input found here to your best advantage, we recommend that you do so in conjunction with the work that you are doing with your individual therapist. Remember: this Web site is not therapy; it's knowledge and support.
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