Dr. Amy Stark
Child Psychologist, Author & Speaker
Teaching Families How to Live Divorced
and Self-Esteem for Girls and Boys
Food For Thought
Busy, Busy Part 2
So, what do you do when you feel overbooked and overwhelmed? Firstly, take out your daytimer or schedule and seriously take a look at it. When was the last time you did…NOTHING? If you are scheduled every moment of every day you are out of balance. If you are a parent, chances are you have children who are overbooked as well. Create some quiet time…time to reflect, read a fun book, garden, sit and watch the sunset. Even if it's just one hour on the weekend, start there. The value of doing this is enormous. Just think about it… it teaches that quiet time has value. Secondly, it does actually give your busy mind time to re-set itself. So many times problems are solved by putting them on the back-burner. Another tool is to learn when it is time to walk away and take a break. Then, go back and try again. Teach this to your children. When things are frustrating, that mini-break often lets your mind re-group and come up with other solutions. Frustration is a message that the way you are trying to do something is not working. Continuing to try the same way is futile. Gain a fresh perspective and try something new. Lastly, when you are exhausted, get some rest…when you come back you will do the job far faster and the result will be better.
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